Finding suitable work with severe mental illness/ other limitations?

Hello everyone. I’m running into some issues and not really sure what my options are at this point. I’m 32F, with a long list of mental health issues and some physical health issues. I’ll list those below.

My mental health issues include:

Severe treatment-resistant depression

Social anxiety disorder

Generalized anxiety disorder

Post-traumatic stress disorder

Obsessive compulsive disorder

Borderline personality disorder

Executive dysfunction

Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder

My physical health issues range from severe fatigue, chronic diarrhea due to gallbladder removal (I’ve gotten in trouble at every job due to this), to generalized pain. Fairly certain I’ve got some auditory processing issues going on, because “what,” and “I’m sorry, could you repeat yourself?” Might as well be my catchphrase. My partner has threatened to buy me hearing aids many times.

I’ve mostly either worked fast food or some kind of factory job (I prefer quality assurance/ control work.) I don’t have any college degree unfortunately.

Here are my issues:

I’m a bit of a slow learner. You have to explain it to me and show it to me before I’ll even try to attempt it myself. And it takes me a while to remember lots of steps, I have to take notes because I can’t retain a long list of instructions. This makes training very stressful because everyone is trying to move and teach me faster than I am capable of learning. People get frustrated with me, I’ve had people refuse to continue training me before..

The social anxiety makes working with the public very difficult and anxiety inducing. Paired with the struggle i have hearing people properly, it doesn’t go well in a retail or customer-service orientated jobs. I also greatly struggle to understand people with an accent, so that makes things even worse. I’m socially awkward and struggle with maintaining the flow of conversations, knowing when it’s my turn to talk, etc.

One of my biggest issues, is the need to use the restroom suddenly and sometimes frequently. I had my gallbladder removed about 11 years ago and it’s been constant issues since then. On a bad day, I can be in the bathroom every half hour to hour, every hour all day. (I tried to get help for this, but the medication that was given to me for it, I couldn’t handle due to my ARFID) immodium isn’t an option either, as the one time I did take it, it caused me to become impacted in a matter of days. So I won’t touch it now.

My partner is getting increasingly frustrated because I can’t just apply to any job and work. I have to be choosy and careful. I don’t have the physical energy for 10-12 hour shifts. I can’t do heavy lifting. I struggle with this or that, and he gets so frustrated.

I’ve been looking and looking for a new job due to the commute to my current job since we moved (i work 3-1130, but I’m away from home from about 1pm to 1 am with my commute) and I’m just… coming up empty handed. I have to work, obviously, but I struggle so much.

Any ideas on what I could do/ look for?

(I’ve applied for disability twice and been denied both times. That and it isn’t enough to live on anyway)

Thank you if you took the time to read this.