7 subtle signs you aren’t happy in life (and how to change things around)

Recognizing unhappiness in your life can be tricky. It’s like trying to see the forest for the trees, but the forest is your life, and the trees are your daily routines.

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut without even realizing it, convincing yourself that you’re just going through a rough patch, not truly unhappy.

But sometimes, your subconscious mind sends up subtle signals that things aren’t right. And when you know what to look out for, you can start making changes that lead to real happiness.

Let’s explore 7 of these subtle signs that you might not be as happy as you think in life – and more importantly, how to turn things around.

1) You’re constantly fatigued

It’s one thing to feel tired after a long day or a restless night, but it’s another thing entirely to feel perpetually exhausted.

This kind of constant fatigue can be a subtle sign you’re not happy in life. You see, your body and mind are interconnected, and when one suffers, the other usually follows suit.

Emotional or mental stress can manifest in physical ways, like causing you to feel constantly run down or drained. And if you’re unhappy, that stress can be constant.

So if you find yourself always longing for sleep, never feeling fully rested, it might be time to look closer at why that is.

But don’t despair – there are ways to turn this around. Start by identifying the sources of stress in your life and finding healthy ways to cope with them. This could be through exercise, meditation, talking with friends or seeking professional help.

Remember, fatigue is just a symptom. Address the root cause, and you’ll start feeling more energized in no time.

2) You’ve lost interest in things you used to love

This one hit me hard. I remember how I used to love painting. I would spend hours mixing colors, brushing them onto canvas, losing myself in the process. It was a passion, a hobby, a form of self-expression.

But then, I stopped. I told myself I was too busy, that I had more important things to do. My paintbrushes gathered dust, and my canvases remained blank.

The truth was, I had lost interest in something that once brought me joy because I was unhappy and restless.

This is another subtle sign of unhappiness in life. Of course, it’s okay if your interests evolve over time. But if you’re losing interest in everything you used to enjoy, it might be time to examine why that is.

When we’re happy, we’re more likely to engage in activities we love, because they fuel our happiness further. But when we’re unhappy, even our favorite hobbies can seem pointless or unappealing.

If you want to spark that passion in you again, start small. Re-engage with your passions slowly. For me, it began with doodling on a notepad during breaks. Over time, it reignited my appetite for the art.

3) You’re always in autopilot mode

Are the days just blurring together? Do you feel like you’re just going through the motions, not really engaging with life?

If so, you might be stuck in autopilot mode.

Autopilot can be a helpful tool when we’re doing routine tasks, but it’s not a healthy way to live our entire lives. When we’re present, fully engaged in the moment, we experience life more fully and find greater satisfaction.

But how do we break free from autopilot mode and start living more mindfully? That’s a question that I tackle in my book, “The Art of Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Living in the Moment”.

In it, I provide practical tips and exercises to help you cultivate mindfulness in your daily life. This isn’t about sitting in a meditative trance for hours. It’s about small, manageable changes that can help you engage more fully with your life.

So if you’re noticing that you’re always on autopilot, take it as a subtle sign that you might not be as happy as you could be.

Start by trying to live more mindfully, whether that’s through reading my book or finding other resources that resonate with you.

4) Your health is taking a hit

Physical health is closely tied to our emotional well-being. When we’re unhappy, we often neglect our bodies. We might engage in harmful behaviors like skipping workouts, choosing unhealthy foods, or not getting enough sleep.

Not only that, but stress and unhappiness can have physical effects on the body.

If you’re noticing that your health is suffering, it might be a sign of underlying unhappiness.

The good news? You can turn this around.

Start by setting small, achievable goals. Maybe it’s a 15-minute walk every day or swapping a fast-food meal for a home-cooked one. Small steps can lead to big changes.

Your body is the vehicle that carries you through life. Treat it with the care it deserves.

5) You’re “happy” all the time

Sounds counter-intuitive, right? How can being happy be a sign of unhappiness?

Well, it’s important to understand that real life isn’t about being happy all the time.

It’s about experiencing a full range of emotions – joy, sadness, anger, excitement, fear, and more. These emotions give depth to our experiences and make us human.

If you’re always “happy,” it could be a sign that you’re avoiding or suppressing other emotions.

As Positive Psychology puts it, “Emotional repression is all about avoiding emotional suffering. It is a coping style used to hide and push away negative emotions.”

And that isn’t healthy or sustainable in the long run.

Embrace your emotions, even the negative ones. They’re not something to be feared or avoided. They’re a part of you.

It’s absolutely okay to not be okay sometimes. Acknowledge your feelings, understand them, and let them guide you. It’s a sign of emotional intelligence and a step towards real happiness.

6) You’re constantly comparing yourself to others

It’s a trap that’s easy to fall into, especially in this era of social media where everyone’s highlight reel is on display. But comparing yourself to others is a surefire way to diminish your happiness.

Here’s the thing – there will always be someone who appears to be doing better, living a happier life, achieving more. But appearances can be deceiving, and these comparisons don’t take into account the unique journey each of us is on.

Instead, try focusing on your own growth and progress. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem.

And keep this in mind — the only person you should be trying to be better than is the person you were yesterday.

7) You’re not living true to yourself

This is perhaps the most significant sign of all. If you’re living a life that’s not true to who you are, it’s nearly impossible to feel genuinely happy.

Maybe you’re pursuing a career because it’s what your parents wanted, or you’re in a relationship that doesn’t fulfill you. Perhaps you’re hiding parts of yourself because you’re afraid of what others might think.

Living a life that’s not aligned with your true self is exhausting and unsatisfying. It’s like wearing a mask all the time – sooner or later, it starts to weigh heavy on you.

The key to genuine happiness lies in embracing who you are, quirks and all, and living a life that reflects that. It’s about making choices that align with your values and passions.

Being true to yourself isn’t always easy, but it’s essential for finding lasting happiness. So if you find that you’re not living true to yourself, take it as a call to action. It’s never too late to start living a life that feels authentically yours.

Final thoughts

So, if you’ve been reading through these signs and nodding along, don’t worry—you’re definitely not alone. We all go through phases where we question if we’re truly happy or just coasting along.

The key takeaway here is that recognizing these subtle signs is the first step toward making real, positive changes in your life. It’s easy to get stuck in routines or tell ourselves that this is just how things are, but the truth is, you have the power to shift things around.

My book, “The Art of Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Living in the Moment”, can be a helpful companion on this journey. It’s designed to help you cultivate mindfulness and engage more fully with your life.

Think about it like this: life is too short to settle for a version of yourself that doesn’t feel fulfilled.

So, take that leap—whether it’s in your job, your relationships, or even just in how you spend your downtime. Start small if you need to, but know that every little change you make puts you one step closer to living a life that genuinely makes you happy. You’ve got this!