9 ways to spot a narcissist on your social media feed, says psychology

Have you ever scrolled through your social media feed and noticed certain people seem to dominate the space with their presence?

Maybe it’s the way they share, the tone they use, or the patterns in their posts that make you pause and wonder.

Social media has become a fascinating lens into human behavior, often revealing more about people’s personalities than we realize.

Psychology suggests that narcissism, a personality trait often characterized by self-absorption and a need for admiration, can subtly—or not so subtly—manifest in the way someone interacts online.

While it’s easy to brush off certain behaviors as just “part of the social media game,” understanding these signs can give you a deeper perspective on how people use these platforms and what might be driving their actions.

1) They dominate the conversation

Spotting a narcissist on your social media feed could start with observing their communication habits.

Narcissists often steer every conversation back to themselves.

You might notice that their comments on your posts always somehow link back to their own experiences, achievements, or interests—as if they use your content as a platform to spotlight themselves, rather than engaging with what you’ve shared.

Similarly, they might constantly post about their accomplishments, their fabulous lifestyle, or their superior opinions on various topics.

In reality, these narcissistic people are broadcasting more than interacting, making their social media presence feel like a one-sided conversation.

2) They crave validation

Another common trait narcissists exhibit on social media is an insatiable need for validation.

They are constantly seeking likes, comments, and shares on their posts and can become noticeably upset or even aggressive when they don’t receive the attention they believe they deserve.

Noticeable instances include:

• Posting multiple times a day
• Reposting previous content in an attempt to gain more engagement
• Frequently commenting on their own posts
• Trying to keep the conversation going and staying at the top of your feed

Constantly needing affirmation and praise is about boosting their online popularity.

3) They’re often overly generous with compliments

Strangely enough, narcissists can be quite generous with compliments on social media by regularly commenting on your posts with flattery and praise, often to an excessive degree.

Their aim is often to create a positive image of themselves as charming and supportive individuals.

However, these compliments usually serve a dual purpose—not only do they paint the narcissist in a positive light, but they also keep you engaged and responsive to their online presence.

A pattern for this is obvious; the compliments are often superficial, focusing on looks or material possessions rather than personal qualities or achievements, and usually come with the expectation of a compliment in return—keeping the focus squarely on them.

4) They are quick to anger

Narcissists have a short fuse online—quick to react with anger or hostility at the slightest perceived slight or disagreement.

There might even be cases where they lash out at others who disagree with their views or challenge their image, even engage in heated arguments in comment sections, refusing to back down, and sometimes resorting to personal attacks.

They hold a deep need to be right and superior, and any challenge to this can trigger an aggressive response.

To people like them, it’s all about control and dominance—creating a toxic environment for everyone involved.

5) They rarely show genuine empathy

While narcissists can be very good at feigning concern or empathy, it often lacks depth and sincerity—they struggle to genuinely empathize with others on social media.

When someone shares a personal struggle or a sad news, they might respond with generic or cliched comments.

Or worse, they might redirect the attention back to themselves, as if they don’t quite understand how to offer real emotional support.

Though this lack of empathy doesn’t necessarily make them bad people, it does highlight a fundamental disconnect in how they relate to others.

Their responses often feel more like a performance than a genuine attempt to connect, leaving you with a sense that something is missing.

6) They project a perfect image

We all like to show our best side on social media, but with narcissists, it goes a step further.

Create a seemingly perfect, curated persona online can be hard to ignore, especially if a narcissist is behind all that.

Online, a narcissist’s photos are always flawless, their life appears to be filled with glamorous events and luxurious experiences, and they rarely share about their struggles, failures or the mundane aspects of their lives.

Of course, it’s natural to feel a bit envious or inadequate when comparing your life to their picture-perfect existence. However, it’s still important to remember that this is just an illusion.

7) They love a good humble-brag

Narcissists have a knack for humble-bragging on social media.

If you’re not familiar with the term, it’s when someone subtly boasts about themselves while disguised as a self-deprecating joke or casual comment.

For example, they might post a photo of their newly decorated home office, captioning it with something like “Just trying to make this tiny space work!” when it’s clearly an upscale and elegantly designed room.

Or they might share a photo from their exotic vacation with a caption like, “Can’t believe I’m stuck here while it’s raining back home!”

It’s all in good fun, of course, but this sneaky way of bragging is another way narcissists seek admiration and envy without appearing too obvious about it.

8) They rarely take responsibility

One of the more frustrating traits of a narcissist is their inability to take responsibility for their actions, especially when they’ve done something wrong or hurtful.

On social media, this might manifest as them never apologizing or admitting fault in disagreements—playing the victim, twisting the narrative, or blaming others to deflect responsibility.

A key to remember about this scenario is that this isn’t about you, but about their inability to confront their own shortcomings.

Standing up to them can be tough, but it’s crucial not to let their deflections affect your self-esteem or peace of mind.

9) They use social media as their stage

Social media is their stage—their platform to showcase their superiority, seek admiration, and maintain control.

Every post, comment, or like serves a purpose in crafting their ideal image and manipulating the perceptions of others.

Online narcissists thrive on the attention they receive and use it to fuel their ego.

Once you see it, you can choose how to interact with them—setting boundaries, limiting contact, or in some cases, hitting the unfollow button.

Remember, your social media space is yours to control and you have the power to decide who gets to be a part of it.

You’ve just spotted a narcissist on your feed—what now?

If you’ve noticed someone with narcissistic tendencies on your social media, their behavior may already be affecting your online experience.

Interacting with someone who seeks constant attention and creates a toxic environment can be draining.

Remember, no amount of likes or comments will satisfy them, as they struggle to feel fulfilled themselves.

Limiting their access or blocking them can help protect your peace and create a healthier online space.

This isn’t about diagnosing anyone but recognizing patterns that may harm your online interactions.

Your social media should be a space for positivity, genuine connections, and mutual respect—and you have the power to shape it.