If life doesn’t feel as joyful as it once did, say goodbye to these 7 habits

Have you ever found yourself wondering where all the joy in your life has gone?

You’re not alone. Many of us hit a point where life just doesn’t feel as bright or fulfilling as it once did.

But joy isn’t something that just happens to us; it’s something we can actively cultivate. And, more often than not, it’s the habits we unknowingly cling to that hold us back.

Today, we’re diving into some habits that could be stealing your joy without you even realizing it.

Letting go of these has been a transformative experience for me – and they just might be for you, too.

Ready to make room for more joy? Let’s get started.

1) Negativity breeding

Isn’t it remarkable how a single negative thought or habit can lead to another, and then another, until you’re surrounded by a cloud of gloom?

Negativity is like a weed – it spreads quickly, and if left unchecked, it can overtake your entire garden of joy.

But here’s the thing: you have the power to stop this chain reaction. You don’t have to let one negative moment dictate the rest of your day. It’s all about breaking the cycle.

For me, keeping a gratitude journal was the game-changer. Each day, I’d write down a few things I was genuinely thankful for, and over time, this small act shifted my perspective. I noticed myself becoming happier and more resilient to those little everyday setbacks.

And it’s not just me – research suggests that those who regularly wrote about gratitude were more optimistic and felt better about their lives. It’s a simple but powerful practice.

Give it a shot!

2) Living in the past or future

Are you always reminiscing about the good old days or constantly planning and worrying about the future?

While it’s normal to reflect on past experiences or plan for what’s ahead, getting stuck in either can rob you of the joy of living in the present.

When we dwell on the past, we often magnify our nostalgia and minimize our regrets. In contrast, when we project into the future, we create scenarios that generate worry and anxiety.

Both habits can keep us from experiencing and appreciating the present moment.

Try to consciously bring your focus back to the present. Engage with your surroundings, listen to the sounds around you, appreciate the beauty of the world as it is right now.

3) Ignoring self-care

In the hustle and bustle of life, it’s easy to neglect self-care. We push ourselves to the brink, prioritizing work, family, and other responsibilities over our own well-being.

But self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. It’s about respecting and nurturing yourself – body, mind, and spirit.

As noted by experts, ignoring self-care can lead to burnout, low energy, and a sense of hopelessness. It’s like running a car without ever changing the oil – eventually, something’s going to break down.

Take a moment to ask yourself: “Am I taking care of me?” If the answer is no, it might be time to say goodbye to this habit.

Start prioritizing self-care, whether it’s taking a walk in nature, having a warm bath, or just sitting quietly with a cup of tea. You’ll be surprised by how much joy these small acts can bring into your life.

4) Constantly seeking approval

This one hits close to home.

I used to be a die-hard people pleaser. Saying ‘no’ felt like a crime, and I found myself constantly bending over backward to meet others’ expectations, often at the cost of my own happiness. This endless pursuit of approval was draining and left little room for joy.

Constantly seeking validation from others can make your joy dependent on their perceptions and opinions.

Focus on approving of yourself – your decisions, your worth, your life. Trust me; it’s a game-changer for rediscovering joy.

5) Trying to make everything perfect

Perfectionism might seem like a noble pursuit at first. After all, what’s wrong with wanting to do your best?

But here’s the truth: striving for perfection can often lead to more harm than good.

As noted by the folks at WebMD, perfectionism is associated with anxiety and depression. The constant pressure to make everything flawless can keep you stuck in a loop of overthinking and self-criticism, making it hard to enjoy the present or feel proud of your achievements.

The reality is, life is messy and imperfect, and that’s what makes it beautiful. Sometimes, “good enough” really is enough. By letting go of the need for everything to be perfect, you make room for more joy, spontaneity, and self-compassion.

6) Overlooking the importance of close relationships

Here’s a powerful truth: the quality of our relationships significantly impacts our happiness and well-being.

The Harvard Study of Adult Development, which is one of the longest-running studies on happiness, found that close relationships are the strongest predictors of long-term health and joy – even more than money or fame.

For me, investing in close relationships – whether it’s with family, friends, or even colleagues – has had a profound effect on my sense of joy and fulfillment.

It’s easy to take these connections for granted or assume they’ll always be there, but nurturing them can make all the difference in how you experience life.

If you’ve been letting your relationships take a back seat, maybe it’s time to reconnect. A simple call, a shared meal, or a heart-to-heart chat could be a step toward a happier, more joyful you.

7) Constantly comparing yourself to others

We’ve all been there – scrolling through social media, catching glimpses of other people’s “perfect” lives, and suddenly feeling like we don’t quite measure up.

But the habit of constantly comparing yourself to others is a sure way to drain your joy.

When you compare your life, achievements, or appearance to someone else’s highlight reel, you’re bound to feel inadequate. What you don’t see are the struggles, insecurities, and failures behind those snapshots.

Breaking free from this habit requires a shift in focus – toward your own growth, your own accomplishments, and what truly matters to you.

The only person you should strive to be better than is the person you were yesterday.

Final thought: It’s all about choice

Breaking these habits isn’t easy – it takes self-awareness, intention, and practice.

But the reward is worth it: more joy, more fulfillment, and a greater sense of peace in your daily life.

So take that first step, however small, and start making room for more joy today. Your future self will thank you.