If you really want to be a true alpha in life, say goodbye to these 7 behaviors

Being an Alpha—a leader, a go-getter, a decision-maker—is about being the best version of yourself, and that means letting go of certain behaviors.

However, certain behaviors can undermine your ability to embody this role and reach your full potential.

If you’re ready to step into your best self and command respect in all areas of life, I’ll share with you seven behaviors to let go of.

Time to say goodbye to them and hello to a stronger, more confident you:

1) Seeking validation

You know what I’m talking about, right? Constantly seeking approval for our actions, yearning for compliments to boost our ego, or feeling the need to be liked by everyone around us.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s human nature to want affirmation, but if you’re aiming to be an Alpha then you need to realize that your worth doesn’t hinge on what others think of you.

Believe in yourself and your capabilities—your approval should be enough for you.

2) Procrastinating

When it comes to being an Alpha, action is key.

One of the biggest hurdles I’ve personally had to overcome is procrastination: I used to have this habit of putting off things until the last minute or sometimes even indefinitely.

For example, there was this business idea that I had been toying with for years but, instead of taking concrete steps towards it, I kept delaying it and telling myself I’d start “next month” or “when I have more time.”

This cycle continued until one day, I realized that I was standing in my own way.

The ‘perfect time’ that I was waiting for would never come unless I made it happen.

So, I took the plunge, started working on my idea, and let me tell you, it was one of the best decisions I ever made.

Being an Alpha means taking charge and making things happen instead of waiting around.

3) Negative thinking

As an Alpha, positivity is your best friend—but negative thinking? Not so much.

Our minds have a natural tendency to lean towards negativity, thanks to a phenomenon called ‘negativity bias.’

This means that we are more likely to notice and remember bad experiences than good ones; a survival mechanism that has helped us avoid danger since the early days of human evolution.

However, in today’s world, it often just holds us back.

Negative thinking can cloud your judgment, hinder creativity, and prevent you from reaching your full potential—like a self-fulfilling prophecy that if you think you will fail, you are setting yourself up for failure.

Alphas choose to see the glass as half full rather than half empty—they focus on solutions rather than problems.

4) Fear of failure

If there’s one thing that can hold you back from achieving Alpha status, it’s the fear of failure.

Let’s face it, nobody likes to fail because it’s uncomfortable, it’s disheartening, and it can really bruise our ego.

However, fear of failure can be even more damaging as it can stop us from taking risks, trying new things, or stepping out of our comfort zone.

Alphas understand that failure is not a dead-end but a stepping stone to success; they see it as an opportunity to learn and grow rather than something to be afraid of.

If you let the fear of failure dictate your actions, you’ll always play it safe, and playing it safe won’t get you to the top.

5) Avoiding difficult conversations

In my earlier years, I had a habit of steering clear of tough conversations: Be it discussing a problem with a friend, giving feedback to a colleague, or addressing an issue with a partner, I’d rather keep quiet than risk hurting someone’s feelings or creating conflict.

In doing so, I was only sweeping the issues under the rug.

They didn’t disappear; they just festered and grew, creating bigger problems down the line.

Being an Alpha means facing difficulties head-on, even when it’s uncomfortable—having the courage to address issues directly and honestly.

Over time, I’ve learned that difficult conversations are necessary for growth and improvement.

They may be uncomfortable, but they pave the way for better understanding and stronger relationships.

6) Being a people pleaser

Becoming an Alpha isn’t about pleasing everyone around you.

On the contrary, it’s about knowing your values, standing your ground, and sometimes, saying no.

Unfortunately, many of us fall into the trap of being people pleasers; we agree to things we don’t want to do, say yes when we mean no, all in the name of keeping others happy.

Here’s the thing: You can’t please everyone, and trying to do so will only leave you feeling drained and unfulfilled.

Alphas know their worth and set boundaries for themselves, and they understand that their time, energy, and happiness are important and shouldn’t be compromised to meet other people’s expectations.

Start prioritizing yourself—remember, it’s okay to say “no”.

7) Living in the past

If you want to be a true Alpha, you need to let go of your past.

Our past experiences, mistakes, and failures can often hold us hostage, preventing us from moving forward.

We get stuck in a loop of what-ifs and if-onlys that serve no purpose other than to keep us trapped.

All Alphas learn from their experiences and move on, focusing on the present and future—not letting their past define them and, instead, use it to shape a better future.

The past is a place of reference so focus on the here and now, and what lies ahead.

After all, the best is yet to come!

Final thought: True strength lies within

Becoming an Alpha isn’t just about external manifestations of power or dominance. It’s about inner strength, self-confidence, and resilience.

In the words of Lao Tzu, an ancient Chinese philosopher and author, “Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.”

Being an Alpha isn’t about controlling others—it’s about mastering yourself.

As you reflect on these seven behaviors to let go of, remember that true strength comes from within.

It’s about recognizing your weaknesses, learning from them, and evolving into a better version of yourself.

Here’s to self-mastery and becoming an Alpha in your own right!